Companionship

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The text below was offered by one of the participants in the intergenerational gathering. We read it in the circle before moving into a peer-coaching exercise. (If someone knows who is the author, then please tell us!) 

Companioning is about being present to another person's pain;
It is not about taking away the pain.

Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being;
it is not about thinking you are responisble for finding the wayout.

Companioning is about honoring the spirit;
it is not about focusing on the intellect.

Companioning is about listening with the heart;
it is not about analyzing with the head.

Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggles of others;
it is not about judging or directing those struggles.

Companioning is about walking alongside;
it is not about leading or being led.

Companioning means discovering the gifts of the sacred silence;
it is not about filling up everymoement with words.

Companioning is about respecting disorder and confusioin;
it is not about imposing order and logic.

Companioning is about learning from others;
it is not about teaching them.

 

See the video

You can see Simone reading this poem. She is sitting in the Sky Space at Axladitsa, where the Intergenerational Gathering was held, called by the Pioneers of Change.

 

The Source

I received the following information from Teresa Smith-Dixon in response to my question of where the companioning quote came from:

 

oh my yes the author is someone who i honor very much. it is Dr. Alan Wolfelt, he has the Center for Loss and Transition  in Ft. Collins and i have been to many workshops there. i have worked with loss for so many years and i just can't get into 'medical models' or 'pathologizing' grief and his work and writing speak to me and match the way i 'companion' my clients and friends. i really need to make sure i don't send that out again w/o Alan's name and thanks for asking. and great to hear it is being passed around...

Attribution of Companioning

I can help a little with the origin of this reflection.  I received it from Teresa Smith-Dixon, a hospice worker here in Oregon following the death of a very dear community member this summer.  I shared it with Mary Shippy who shared it with Simone who read it at the POC gathering.  I have sent an inquiry to Teresa to see where if she knows from whence it came.