How do we handle disturbance in the field, in our community, online and offline?  How do we engage with all of who we are and realize we are all so interconnected that how we hold the dissonance and resonance is key to our own evolution and collective self-awareness. 

Judy from Moving the Edge has just posted something so powerful and beautiful that I felt called to create a place of its own for unfolding this conversation  I want to honor this in myself, when it comes up in me, when it comes up in the Circle, when it arrives unexpectedly.  How do we hold this while moving powerfully forward in our highest potential, as evolutionary communities?  These questions I am holding.

Judy writes:

Emotions and disturbances held in the field.  What can they reveal to us?

"Understanding Violation (one among many that came forward)
We have all violated and been violated.  As humans from many incarnations, we have participated in and hold the group karma of the human race.  The pain of this is held in the greater body of humankind, in the suffering and sacrifice of the animal kingdom, in the greater aura of the planetary consciousness and in the emotional field / plane where all sentient beings are working to transform and purify this energy.  As we learn to release our personal attachment to this supreme injustice of violation, as we understand it as the misuse and abuse and fear based energy that it is, we move beyond, we become more whole, we lift human consciousness out of this morass of pain and suffering.  We redeem and transform the field of all suffering, of all violation, of all abuse of power.  As we become more lighted, the light of consciousness lifts this to our awareness, so that it can be seen, transformed and let go."

correction about who is being quoted

(the flat comments are confusing but i'm willing to give them a try).

I quoted Thomas from Judy's blog (Moving the Edge) and it was hard to tell who was quoting who and so when Tom wrote:  (Sheri's great statement "The beauty of collective intelligence is that you can have an enlightened group expression even though the individuals in the group are not transcended at all" fits here.) 

So this wasn't me who said it :)

It was Thomas.

Collective equanimity, or the reversed scapegoat

Tree wrote: "I have not been practicing a collective equanimity very long and I cannot practice this alone.  I need practice with groups of people who also aspire to achieve a collective equanimity.  I have a hope that collective equanimity can evolve more quickly than my individual practice of equanimity has evolved, of course. "

How about this thought: Collective equanimity works like collective judgement, but with the opposite outcome.

Collective judgement: One or more members of a given group pronounce a judgement over a person. Others in the group pick it up because they need to vent some aggression. Thus, a scapegoat is created, and all in the group agree that this terrible person deserves all he/she is getting. The group feels relieved and the scapegoat has fulfilled its function.

Collective equanimity: One or more members of a given group respond to a disturbance with equanimity. Others, well on the way to judging the disturber, discover that it is possible to react with equanimity towards the disturber. Having done that, they see that there was an important message coming from the 'disturber', a voice that needed to be heard. Hence the person who was on the verge of becoming a scapegoat is seen and heard as a helper.

Many times during MTE I noticed the inner judge, through the strength of the field, giving way to gratitude because I was helped to understand the importance of what at first glance looked as a disturbance.

Disturbance, emergence, holding space

I have found Peggy Holman's paper "The Dynamics of Emergence" on http://opencirclecompany.com/papers.htm very clarifying in this.  This is where I take it (and these insights are becoming clearer as I write them, so thanks to the group for the stimulation....):

Disturbance -- which is any departure from equinimity (acceptance of what is) -- can arise from anger, conflict, fear -- OR from hopes, dreams, desires. 

The question is, to what extent do we as individuals and as a group have the capacity to welcome not only an initial disturbance in our field (to accept it as an emerging facet of what is) but to welcome, as well, the subsequent disturbances that are stirred into life by the initial disturbance (for they, too, are facets of an emerging reality). 

The calling forth of this capacity in the moment is called opening and holding space.  It is a seeming non-action (wu-wei) which intervenes primarily through presence and through questions that help us notice, open, and hold emotional, mental, and spiritual spaces, and spaces of possibility, when we find ourselves wanting to tighten or close those spaces, or responding from some very contracted individual or collective place.

Resources for this capacity come from all four Wilberite quadrants: 

  • from our individual centeredness, presence, self-awareness, and field sensitivity;
  • from our individual space-holding behaviors (asking good questions, loving engagement);
  • from our group capacity for caring, welcoming, and holding the center; and
  • from the processes, norms, and other social structures we use to order our interactions.

If we are weak in one of these, we can get support from the others. (Sheri's great statement "The beauty of collective intelligence is that you can have an enlightened group expression even though the individuals in the group are not transcended at all" fits here.)  If one of us or our group is extremely strong in one of these -- such as a great facilitator of a powerful process, or a very wise and heartful person in our midst -- it can compensate for weaknesses in all the others.  But usually we can call on resources from all four quadrants to help us. 

Unfortunately, life being what it is, we sometimes lack all of them, and the dissonances we face are too great, and we find our "capacitance" (Charles Johnston's term) proves sadly insufficient -- and we are individually and/or collectively overwhelmed.

And then that overwhelm becomes a dissonance for us, individually and collectively -- and, to the extent we are a healthy learning community, we reflect on it after the fact, expanding our capacitance (as we are doing here) in preparation for the next inevitable challenge. 

But back to Peggy's model.  One thing that strikes me about it is the idea that we experience dissonance because of some kind of unknownness.  Either we're all together in some puzzle or uncertainty (e.g., a difficult choice), and/or we have stumbled upon our differences (at which point I don't know what you are talking about).  Peggy's advice to the individual is (a) listen and (b) follow your heart -- which are ways to connect with ourselves and each other.  Her advice to the group is (a) connect and (b) reflect together.  Nowhere here is there any advice to compromise, withhold, suppress, or establish agreement.  There is complete acknowledgement that this will lead to divergence -- to growing differences -- but with a twist:

There is a faith (borne out by experience) that if we can hold the space ("the container", which includes having enough willingness and time!), there will be a breakthrough.  Because the dissonances we encountered were a new form of aliveness, a new form of wholeness, trying to emerge through the solid field of What Has Been.

And the gift Peggy brings in this model that I'd never thought of before is that the breakthrough occurs when the personal and the universal -- the individual and the group -- become expressions of the same reality.  There are many ways this can happen, for example:

  • the group realizes that a dissonant voice is speaking from and for a suppressed part of the group or its members,
  • the group experiences a collective deepening from head to heart in empathic response to one person's story,
  • a big-picture Truth emerges, made up of all the authentic individual perspectives, that newly clarifies the actual complexity of what the group is dealing with,
  • the group stumbles upon a remarkable new possibility, voiced by an individual in their midst speaking authentically from and to the heart of the group field,
  • etc.

One way or another, individual and collective awareness coalesces around a new, inclusive, vibrantly alive truth.  Wilber's two left-hand quadrants (individual interior, collective interior) cohere into a new whole.  At that point the group moves on to address the right-hand quadrants -- the objective individual and collective realities -- by converging into coherent action(s).

I see this as fractal.  It can happen in a momentary conflict, during the discussion of one agenda item, over the course of a whole meeting, or in the waves of dissonance and harmony that spiral through a group during the course of its life together as it encounters The Other from within and without.

I think we are learning to do this.  And our learning can be very messy, with many steps backward as well as forward -- and with many of us engaging, withdrawing, watching, stumbling.  We are doing something very difficult, very important, and very mysterious, even as we learn to talk about it, to think about it, to feel about it, as we are doing here, bumping into our differences even now, trying to build better containers even as we call on each other to rise to the occasion and share our struggles.

And in the end we'll evolve.  Because there's nothing else but evolution going on. Right now.

yes, yes, yes

Yes, to all that Finn has just written here.

 I think the time has come for all humans to practice a new level of profound acceptance of what 'is'.  If one person is speaking with personal references, then that is what 'is', in that moment. 

I believe, as Finn has written, that there is a price to pay for failing to embrace what IS showing up.  

Many people showing up here in evolutionarynexus have spiritual practices.  A core of my spiritual practice is to accept what 'is' in each moment with equanimity.  If a pain shoots through my hip as I meditate, I aspire to ONLY take note of the pain without allowing any reaction to the pain.  I aspire to be equanimous with what is showing up for me, individually, in my individual practice.

Now I believe that a conscious social system needs a collective practice of accepting with equanimity whatever shows up.  If someone shows up talking about what seems like personal issues to some members of a group, AND all others in the collective greet this 'personal stuff' with equanimity, listening always to the middle, then we will have something greater than we can quite see when we are editing what is happening.  Also, if someone shows up talking about "I am here for the colelctive intelligence", this, too, can be greeted with genuine equanimity. 

I have been meditating individually for many years now.  I have moments of equanimity, more and more all the time.  I have not been practicing a collective equanimity very long and I cannot practice this alone.  I need practice with groups of people who also aspire to achieve a collective equanimity.  I have a hope that collective equanimity can evolve more quickly than my individual practice of equanimity has evolved, of course. 

AND.....

.....it makes me think like this:

Where body-work, mind-work, heart-work and soul-work is one,
where personal work and transpersonal work is one,
where individual work and collective work is one

that is where I long to be.

That work to me is "working at the edge", "inquiring from the middle", "walking in mystery", "being in the YES-place",.......(add more).

If any of what seems to be parts or branches of the work is attempted to be left out - could be because of "I am here for the collective intelligence, my time is not for personal therapy" kind of thinking, or could be because of "If I can't express my self fully as I need right now what is all this collective stuff worth then" kind of thinking - then there is a prize to pay for the leaving out - an imbalance, a struggle for leadership, a pain, a division in the group......(add more).

If all of what seems to be parts or branches of the work are welcomed, included, embrased, then it will at any given moment sort it self out what actual form the work will take, and then any specific form of the work can be experienced as at the same time body-, mind-, heart-, soul-, personal, transpersonal, individual and collective work. 

....I think, or I hope..... 

some reflections from me. . .

Judy writes ****** (as quoted by Sheri):

*******I think where I want to go is learning to move, feel, speak from a place that empowers or creates an opening for the whole, not just my self-centered self. This requires a lot of practice and presence.*******

When I read Judy's comment that 'it takes a lot of practice", it has me yearning  to hear others thoughts on what kind of collective practice can be consciously created at the salons.  I believe 'we' need a lot of collective practice in order to be collectively conscious. What would some examples of training for such practice look like?

And, speaking only for myself, I need to say that I grow less and less certain that there is a distinction between the personal (I would certainly never suggest that doing personal work means doing therapy) and the nonpersonal.  For someone to always, steadily speak from an exclusively, nonpersonal perspective would sound like the work of the goddesses, or, maybe, superhumans.  I think Sheri is just about saying the same thing when she says 'we don't have to transcend our egos in order to engage into a living orgamism moving in a flexibly and highly intelligent way."

 

more wisdom/insights from MTE - personal/impersonal

http://www.evolutionarynexus.org/node/392

whatever we're doing in the group should be very clear. Are we doing therapy now (personal) or are we  creating space for the middle (non-personal or trans-personal). Furthermore, I think that transpersonal practices alone cannot heal the ego.

Perhaps, being in a transpersonal realm for a while, experiencing collective intelligence, this sense of community, especially the love and care, brings out our shadow parts more quickly. Making them come out of their hiding places. Giving us a great opportunity to work with them. Perhaps knowing this, we can be prepared for it.

We DON´T have to transcend our egos in order to engage into a living organism moving in a flexible and highly intelligent way. All  we have to do is being honest, and throwing our highest potential into the middle(which is by the way a lot). 

The beauty of collective intelligence is that you can have an enlightened group expression even though the individuals in the group are not transcended at all.
 

 

balancing personal and impersonal

i have been so moved by the conversation flowing in the moving the edge community and in particular what judy is sharing in her blog and how others are showing up to engage with this conversation.  it feels so juicy and alive and resonant to me.  so again, i feel called to point to what has just been posted in another forum to connect it with this conversation about our collective reflection and holding the whole of our human and evolving experience.

judy writes as a synthesis:

"The personal is very much a part of being human. So as I attempt to push this edge, I wonder if we can learn and discern within ourselves what is emerging in authenticity, and not from a narcisistic self of being human, but of the evolving human. I am guessing that if a shadow or disassociated part of oneself surfaces, we may not be in a position to discern narciscism or something more universal in the moment. And the expression of the personal may be the doorway into a clearing, an emptying, and a learning for the whole. I think where I want to go is learning to move, feel, speak from a place that empowers or creates an opening for the whole, not just my self-centered self. This requires a lot of practice and presence. And if I come from a narcistic place, I may not know the difference. So again the "both-and" and the commitment to discern. I know there were personal doorways that became group doorways during our time together. The acknowledgement of co-intellingence as love, the "Who Am I?" question, the role of the feminine energy and finding the balance in each of us with the masculine. We are learning, in training, prototyping, experimenting. And as Jan said, there is also a place for personal growth/therapy outside the circle. This is a responsbility we have, I think, in evolving our own and group concsiousness. Meditation, or some comtemplative practice, or communion with nature can also help in finding wholeness. For me it has been a lifelong process. What really is exciting now is that we can explore all of this together. We can co-evolve, walk together along and beyond the edge. And we have a responsibility to do so together."

so in the context of what we perceive to be disturbances in the field, i love judy's inquiry question - "what is emerging in authenticity, and not from a narcisistic self of being human, but of the evolving human?"  and i would then add how does this discernment show up in our blindspots - collectively and individually, and what does a circle practice of illuminating the blindspots in our evolutionary path look like.

seeking deeper awareness in all this.  disturbance is dissonance is spirit moving is the authentic evolving human finding herself....himself...ourself...and where does the personal responsibility sit for our own integration and our own work on ourselves.  does it mean anything goes in the circle?  and then does the circle become a place of group therapy or collective conscious spiritual englightened evolution? 

i'm sitting with these.

who is in charge of conflict?

thank you ria! 

this powerful clarification that spirit is in charge of conflict deeply resonates for me and i am seeking ways to embody this, in myself and in the circles i am evolving in/with/through.

i hope you will share more of these synchronicities from the "knowing field"....i am inspired by this as it is a powerful teaching for how we hold conflict in our communities.  and when "conflict" shows up in the online field, how do we see it, hold it, hug each other through it.  it is hard enough for us to "get" this deep knowing when we are all face to face sharing and being, and so how much harder for us to hold it in our online spaces.  this is where i am seeing us learn and practice together.  what do we do when conflict shows up here in our online space?  what are we called to do if we know that spirit is in charge of the conflict?  how much powerful depersonalization can happen if we see it in this way from all "sides" of the conflict?  then the learning can be so much greater and we can experience it together as a way to evolve together.   the knowing field is so inspiring!!!

Synchronicity

I just received in my 'snail' post some older numbers of the magazine: The knowing field. It contains articles related to Hellinger's systemic approach.

I copy part of an article written by Hellinger, its seems to be at the right place here.

"The Spirit, the creative force is in charge of the conflict. It wants the conflict; the conflict is necessary for the evolution. Without conflict here is no growth, but when we identify in a way to this creative force, for instance by consenting to everything as it is, without the wish that anything should be different form how it is, then we come to a state, a state of mind where everything is reconciled. Perhaps we can understand this better if we imagine a wheel; there is something outside the wheel and there is the centre of the wheel. Everything which is outside is connected with the centre and in the centre all becomes one. Outside if the wheel is turning there are ups and downs - constantly, but in the centre everything is united, is still. Therefore when we deal with conflicts, and also with the issues of health, the safest place to deal with all this is the centre."